My Top 5 New Year’s Resolutions
Happy New Year.
Here are my top 5 New Year’s Resolutions:
1. DNCAP
(Do Not Care About People)
Don’t judge me if you don’t know what it means. It means don’t worry about what people think and do and why. Because if you would, you’d never stop (worrying).
Much smarter people than I have come to the same conclusion and I’m sure it’s true. Matter of fact, this is one of the most important realizations I ever had in my life, and I only wish it could have come around sooner.
“I Have Just Come To A Conclusion, Dear.”
So I want to share it with you, and -taken to heart- it can improve your life beyond measure.
Whenever I’m bothered by some moron and their behavior or opinion, I literally say to my self:
“DO – NOT – CARE – ABOUT – PEOPLE!!!”
Does that mean I’m a heartless bastard? Nope. Others need help, you help them, for sure. But don’t let their disturbed minds, opinions, and even actions bother you, if you can help it at all.
2. Struggling is BS
We get raised believing that struggling is a good thing. Well that is bull. Don’t get me wrong, now, this doesn’t mean hard work, or being determined. It means STRUGGLING.
Because when you struggle, something is wrong. The smart guy or gal takes a step back and analyzes the situation: Hmmm, something is wrong, why am I struggling? What exactly is the problem?
Because normally, you work hard and you work smart and you move towards your goals steadily, sometimes faster, sometimes slower, but you’re making progress all the while.
Not when you’re struggling. That’s basically akin to standing still. Spinning your wheels.
You might compare it to banging your head against a wall.
A thick, big brick wall. Because that’s what it is.
Now, if you’re smart, you step back and say: “Oh, look, there’s a wall!, Should I bang my head against it? Er…I don’t THINK so? Let me walk around it… Hey! There’s a door, let’s use that instead.
Whilst the poor bastard over there is banging away…and banging…and banging. And getting one MOTHER of a headache in the process.
He might break through the wall one of these days, with a lot of bruises and not much to show for.
But the smart guy? He’s already about a 100 walls ahead. And HE doesn’t even get a headache…catch my drift?
Struggling? Is the biggest bullshit ever. Please believe me, make you life easier AND more successful.
3. Show And Tell
That’s one thing I just realized recently. Say you have those that you love: your wife, your kid, your parents, your brother, your dog (last but not least). You know you love them, they know you love them, no need to say so, no need to show it. Right?
WRONG!
Imagine a Dad, giving his little boy a hug, saying: “I love you, son. And I want you to know that I’m proud of you. Proud. You’re the best: the best in the west! You mean the world to me, and don’t you ever forget it, you hear?”
Do you think he will? Not in a million years.
I think this is one of the most important things: a flower, a hug, a kiss, a Thank You…mean it, and say it.
Show and Tell…Those That You Love…Every Day.
4. Be The Best Friend I Can Be
Just a decision I made. Family and Friends, what’s more important? So make the most of it.
5. We’re Here and Now, Anyways
So whilst we’re here, let’s make it as pleasurable for everybody as possible. I try to remember this whenever I interact with others: Christmas Dinner with the family or standing in line at the grocery store, the same thing applies.
Isn’t that an awesome resolution?
P.S.
Just saw this on Facebook, and it’s THE perfect New Year’s Video, imo:
22 Comments
Leave a Reply
Great resolutions, Mark. Always good to have something positive to start the New Year. I read something online that’s really going to add some ‘oomph’ to my 2013 – it was a statement that read ‘Reward Success & Failure, Punish Inaction’ and I think that it says it all, do something and you’ll get somewhere, do nothing and you’ll get nowhere.
Wow, Very Cool Kevin!
Thanks!
I’ll keep that one in mind, for sure…
I love it!
All great ones!
Work on these ones myself as of late.
Cheers to you Mark, and Happy New Year!
Sõl
Thanks Sõl, and same to you Bro!
Enjoyed the reading!
Happy new year Mark!
Thanks Aron: Happy New Year!
Thanks for sharing! Awesome stuff!! My fav is the “Show and Tell”….so true!
Hey thanks Michelle, for the comment!
Yeah I came up with that one a little while ago, and made the “Pre-New Year’s Resolution” to do that: every day.
You can use the DNCAP rule if you have something to worry think and do yourself. And when you ask why ,you ask yourself for something that you did not do correctly or the way you wanted. People that dont use this rule are people that they dont do nothing themselfs.
I wish the best for the new year my friend ,Kreta is waiting for you for your summer holidays.
Regards Manolis.
Heya Manolis, thanks for that, and for stopping by!
well spoken mate
Thanks man. Is that you, Sveinbjörn?
Great tips Mark. I’m always trying to better myself and make new friends as well.
Darren – Transformation Cheat Sheet recently posted..10 Simple Eating Habit Changes for Weight Loss Success
I am totally feeling these resolutions. I definitely agree that there is a perception that struggling is a good thing. Sure it shows you are working hard but not necessarily getting the results you want. It’s just best to work effortlessly while reaping the rewards.
-Sam
Sam-Look Like An Athlete recently posted..20 Fitness Tips To Make 2013 Your Best Year
another great post… life coaching should be as important as physical training…Yin/Yang . Missing from western culture but we are slowly waking up. Our goal should be not only physical improvement, but improvement as a human being, mentally and socially. We are the sum of our parts.
Hey thanks James, well said, Brother!
Great One Mark!
Really like ur resolutions. Gave something for me to think about too. DNCAP has always been my plus
Thanks Sameer, glad to hear it Bro.
And Happy New Year!
Good post Mark! No. 4 and 5 are my favorites, it’s essential to think about those things and realize what it’s all about.
Hey thanks Olli: for sure!
And Happy New Year!
Hi Mark,
true and well written words! Like saying the right things, reading them on a regular base is as much important.
Thank you and a great 2013 for you and your loved ones!
Hey thanks Moritz, and same to you!